Making The Choice For The UpSpiral

By Dr. William K. Larkin on April 9, 2012

This week's blog is an excerpt from Dr. Larkin's new book, 

12 New Steps For A New Millenium

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Step 2

"Made the decision to stay in an UpSpiral

regardless of events outside of us."

"What is an UpSpiral?  An UpSpiral is a term that describes ascending and increasing positive emotion that has an energy, and that energy is always increasing. Once you are in the spiral, you can go higher and higher. The top of the spiral is “feeling good.” It is simply feeling good. You can go higher in the spiral to states of bliss and ecstasy, but that is not our goal.  The UpSpiral is characterized by increasingly better positive emotions that lead to a stable sense of “feeling good.”  The energy of the UpSpiral is one that increases health, problem-solving ability, life-satisfaction, well-being, attention, creativity, and intuition. It is a place of optimism and hope. It makes it more possible to play to your strengths. The energy of the spiral pulls you higher in mood and feeling state.

You will feel “on top of it,” in control, in charge of your own self, and empowered to be and do the things that make you feel personally significant. The UpSpiral describes increasing positivity being, which includes positive thinking, positive feeling, positive moods, flow, positive planning, visioning and living the well-lived life.

In a DownSpiral just the opposite is true. It is the experience that is cumulative, that things are “on top of me.”  It is an experience of an increasing sense of oppression.  The DownSpiral probably starts with some innocent complaining or negativity, which moves to judging someone, then to blaming someone else, then to thinking about who has crossed you, to anger, then to mulling and nursing this feeling of anger. Your face has dropped, there is no smile, your eyes are probably not focused on the outside world, and there is an internalized sense of heaviness. The DownSpiral is different for everyone, but it expects that things are bad and will get worse. It is focused on problems and not solutions. It is filled with worry, dread, and anxiety. Eventually it leads to depression, flat lining, the sense that nothing has any real meaning, and at the bottom there is a sense of despondency and dread.  The DownSpiral is a place of dread and disease.  People who live in the DownSpiral more than the UpSpiral have twice the chance of a heart attack or stroke.

If you spend a lot of time “yo-yoing” back and forth between highs and lows, you spend more time in the DownSpiral.  One of the reasons may be that you are easily “overwhelmed.”  It takes only a few things to create the sense of “it’s on top of me.”  People can feel “oppressed” by feeling a little down when they get up, then dropping the toothpaste in the toilet, dropping the soap the third time in the shower, and having to bend over, then spilling the coffee grounds on the counter.  But when you find that there is no coffee creamer, that’s the last straw –the whole day is down the drain. That is simple oppression from cumulative stress, and everyone has it in one way or another.  

However, our response to these situations, on the outside of us, does not have to affect us on the inside. The truth is that we are too easily oppressed by things that don’t matter, and we have not learned really good recovering skills when things do go wrong, which they will.

We can always make the choices that keep us in an UpSpiral rather than a DownSpiral. People who cannot make that choice are in therapy, and perhaps medicated, to be able to make that choice better or at least not sink further into a DownSpiral.  

Aren’t there some events, like grieving a loss, that have to be done in the DownSpiral?  No, there are not. Even grief and loss can be experienced in an UpSpiral of positivity, when it is not clouded with guilt. It simply depends on how we choose to view death and how we grieve the death of another. All of the feelings of love, peace, gratitude, joy and hope especially belong to loss. There may well be feelings of sadness, anger and loss, but they don’t have to be the only feelings. If the focus is on memories of goodness, there can be gratitude. There can be a focus on the things that give us joy.

The longer you remain in an UpSpiral and the more practiced you become, and have the agility and mastery of positive emotional states, the more you realize that all of your life can be lived there by your choice. But it takes time and learning and practice.

The more you decide that outside events will not determine whether you are in an UpSpiral or a DownSpiral, the more you will be able to do so. Every thought you think and every feeling you feel are affecting the structure of your brain. We are becoming what we think and feel. We are always growing neuropathways according to our experience. In learning to live in an UpSpiral, you are changing the structure of the neuropathways in your brain. They will begin to line up differently. As you develop and use new more powerful neuropathways of positivity, the old ones are going to find themselves in a kind of “neuroplastic war.” The old neuropathways die a slow death.  Literally they are deprived of oxygen and glucose as they cease to be used, and they will fight back to live.

Once you encounter the concept that there is an UpSpiral and a DownSpiral, and it can be quantified by your own subjective experience, life is never quite the same in terms of how you view it.  That is because you now have a way of seeing your experience that you didn’t have before. You know whether or not you are in an UpSpiral and you know when you are in a DownSpiral, and are not doing the things you need to do to get out of it and stay out of it.

Your choices have been increased by a new way of looking at your own experience. And once you have spent more time in the UpSpiral, you aren’t going to want to be anywhere but there again. You will learn what you need to learn to stay there and you will do what you have to do to be in a better-feeling place that is within your grasp. This is an enormous piece of personal empowerment. You always know that the choice about where you want to be in the UpSpiral is yours, not external events.  Even though there can be things that drag us down, we know we don’t want to stay there."

CONTINUING EDUCATION FOR COACHES

1) This blog describes a foundational piece of our research and training. Reflecting on your personal journey, what do you consdier to be the TWO most fundamental shifts in your thinking and experience which are the direct result of living in a sustained UpSpiral? Give us a detailed description of both, with examples which illustrate your story. Then go to your copy of 12 New Steps For A New Millenium and read the rest of Step 2, from which this excerpt is taken.

FOR OUR LARGER BLOG COMMUNITY

1) As you learn here about the concept of both an UpSpiral and a DownSpiral, how do you see your "natural UpSpiral" at work in your daily life? Hw much do you normally "yo-yo" up and down between the two? What tools do you naturally employ to bring you "up" when you are headed into the DownSpiral? Tell us your story.

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18 Comments

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Mark E. Anderson wrote on Tue Apr 10th, 6:27am:

TWO fundamental shifts in my thinking as a result of living in a sustained UpSpiral:
1. Moving away from overwhelm (it’s all on top of me, not enough time.)
Through my desire to live in an UpSpiral, I have been determined to move away from this down spiral thinking by practicing the emotional gym, reading daily affirmations and learning to better schedule my time. One of my favorite tools when feeling overwhelmed is “just this”. If I can concentrate on just this one day, just this one hour, just this next 10 minutes, I can make move toward completing the tasks at hand and feel good about my progress.
2. Grieving the loss of a pet
When I put my dog down last month, I felt tremendous sadness and loss. Waves of emotion would strike and I gave into them completely, feeling the feeling, accepting the grief. I felt this level of deep emotion for two days. I have been surprised through this work and the tools of ANI how quickly I was able to move into gratitude, appreciation, empathy, compassion, love, peace and joy for the 16 years spent with this loving animal who taught me so much.

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Gale STEWART wrote on Tue Apr 10th, 4:49pm:

“If you spend a lot of time “yo-yoing” back and forth between highs and lows, you spend more time in the DownSpiral.  One of the reasons may be that you are easily “overwhelmed.”  It takes only a few things to create the sense of “it’s on top of me.”  This happened to me yesterday.  My husband was grumpy because he didn’t feel well; I was feeling wobbly, the ground felt unstable beneath me, and I walked into a room where my church is having a rummage sale this week.  We were there to sort, place and mark.  I walked into the room and immediately felt overwhelmed!  Grumbling to myself, “I hate this kind of thing!” , trying to figure out where to start, hearing everyone there with their own ideas of how it should be done, I just spiraled further down.  However, I pulled up a chair and started sorting clothes and soon the chaos began to feel more orderly.
    Focusing on one area, one thing, helps me to move back into the UpSpiral.  Bringing the Emotional Gym into play, repeating the words, peace, joy, love and gratitude…these are my mantras.  Even in the middle of something I don’t want to do, I can feel myself moving back into UpSpiral.  And i realize I’m more sensitive than ever to negativity.  It feels painful.  And knowing that focus can move me into flow, even if it’s not something i want to do, I can experience joy.  Chop wood.  Be in the UpSpiral.  All the time.  That’s my goal!

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Mary Garvey Horst wrote on Thu Apr 12th, 2:44pm:

Reflecting on your personal journey, what do you consider to be the TWO fundamental shifts in your thinking and experience which are the direct results of living in a sustained UpSpiral.

#1. The Power of Choice - Prior to my association with the Applied Neuroscience Institute, I had a self-limited view of my power of choice.  I did believe that I had a choice in the decisions affecting my life; however, I did not realize how profound my power of choice could be.  I was aware that I could say “yes” or “no” to questions or decisions without really taking into account how important my “yes” or “no” was to the unfolding outcome of my life.  As I began to become familiar with neuro-positivity and living in an UpSpiral, I began to realize how significant a “yes” orientation to life is.  I began to learn that my entire life could lean in the direction of positivity and that the more I responded with a “yes”, the more I built up that response into the very cellular make-up of my body, mind, and spirit.  Saying “yes” to life is way different from a mere “yes” every now and then.  My personal example to this shift relates to my body and energy levels.  As I began to choose to say “yes” to life and to choose happiness over negativity and worry, I started to experience increasing levels of energy.  I started to loose weight, engage in regular exercise, and had the desire to physically move my body.  I truly felt (and continue to feel) energetic, alive, and vibrant in a way that I had previously long since forgotten.

#2.  Xeno Focus (What you focus on intensifies…) - Using the skill of adapting a Xeno Focus goes a step beyond the “Power of Choice”.  With Xeno Focus, one develops the ability to hone in on what one wants and desires.  As that focus intensities, the goal, object or desire comes into one’s field of influence.  One doesn’t have to work so hard at accomplishment or attainment as one’s sense of flow increases.  This is where the Law of Attraction comes into play.  Rather than being scattered all over the place and in a DownSpiral place of doubt or worry, Xeno Focus changes that energy to one of manifestation.  Xeno Focus assists with eliminating many of the distractors that complicate one’s ability to manifest or get things done.  Xeno Focus brings a clarity of intention to the process.  I began to activate my Xeno Focus during the “post-it” note exercise described in Promise 5 of the FuturePak process.  As I began to write down my wants and desires, I surprised myself by how easily things came to mind.  I continued applying my Xeno Focus to my goals, action steps, and Vision Statement.  My life began to come into focus and move in a direction that was personally meaningful, as well as highly significant for me.

Both of these shifts were not temporary “fixes” for me and have become sustained contributors to my living in a continuous UpSpiral state.

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Daniel wrote on Thu Apr 12th, 3:56pm:

For the last 3 years of doing this work, I haven’t been in a downspiral at all.  Some days have been better than others, but I recognize when I start to slide, even a little bit.  I use the tools I’ve learned here to turn me around as quickly as possible. Learning to use my strengths and look at problems through them has become my greatest asset in staying in the UpSpiral.
  Now it has become second nature, to rely on my strengths.  I strive to live in a state of gratitude and appreciation.

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Dr.A wrote on Fri Apr 13th, 5:27pm:

We have been working with the UpSpiral, Emotional Scale, and VibeCore scores for some weeks now. We’ve taught you to distinguish between what you think and what you feel, and to begin to be able to clearly express those differences. In your blog post this week, take the numerical average of your UpSpiral score since you began this class, include that average as part of your comments, and write a DETAILED post setting forth CLEARLY what you think and what you feel regarding your score. Also as part of your post, summarize how your scores have changed, how what you think and feel about them has changed, and what tools you’ve been especially engaging to grow your score.

When I started the certificate course and learned the Up Spiral and its score, I stated a lower score than I thought I actually felt, because in the past 10-14 years I had done a lot of work on myself to make me healthier and happier. Gratitude is something I have always had in my life, and I now know it is one of my strengths. I started with a score of 75 thinking that would allow me to move up the spiral, even though at the time I thought I was about a 90.  The reality however, is that due to an injury that kept me mostly home for two years, because of a failed first surgery and damage to my vocal cords during the second surgery… I had slowly gone down the spiral.  Perhaps not to the down spiral, since I worked with the knowledge and feelings I had used before hand, but a definite lower state than I had felt in many years.  I realized that 75 was probably closer to how I had actually felt in the two plus years since my injury.  I am glad I used the tools I knew from my past to prevent me from going below 50, but even gladder that I saw where I was because of the UpSpiral and Emotional scores, and of course Strengths testing, which was crucial.  Once I identified where I was, I used the tools we learned such as the Emotional Gym to help me go up the spiral again, and be able to then proceed with a good Vibe Score, and a renewed energy to go for my goals, wants and desires.  In the past month, my UpSpiral scores have been in the 90’s, and hope to progress up to 100.  My average I would say in these ten plus weeks is about 85.  Not only is my score higher, but I have moved around some of my goals and added new ones to my list.  I am seeing much possibility for a future of amazing professional and personal goals and new adventures!

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Suzanne wrote on Sat Apr 14th, 3:45pm:

“Making the Choice for the UpSpiral” says it all!  I say YES to it any day.  The awareness of the Spirals has been a true blessing in my life.  Moment by moment I have the opportunity to choose which spiral I am moving toward.  For over a year I was experiencing a challenging skin condition that would grip me at times into misery and pain.  I felt like I was on a boat in the ocean, surging up and down over the waves - I had to hold on tight. With my tools from ANI I was able to ride with the surging but I have to say there were times when I wanted to jump overboard and just be done with it.  When I started to down spiral, there was something within me that gently nudged me to open my tool kit of pulsing.  Even though my UpSpiral score dropped a bit during it all, I was able to keep afloat.  Using one of my top strengths of “Faith” kept me in the boat. I now use my strength of Empathy to understand those who suffer from chronic pain, because I was there and I thank god it is past and that I chose to practice what I preach.
  I am blessed and I thank ANI for the insights and strategies for creating a life of grace. 
Life is good and all is well.  I can feel it.

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Tracy wrote on Sun Apr 15th, 7:14am:

Numerical average UpSpiral score since class began: 71
Numerical average UpSpiral score for April: 85

I feel proud of my scores. My first recorded score was 53, and my scores have been on a steady upward trajectory ever since.  I feel proud that I have kept myself out of the down spiral for the past three months.  I feel confident that I can keep myself buoyed in the 75 and above range indefinitely.  I think that I am doing better than I ever have in my life and I know that I am in control of how I feel. And I feel amazement and gratitude about being in emotional control.  I love being in a state of mind management and I love peace and calm that results from it.  I think that using these tools and experiences are life changing and I think that I will continue to use and appreciate them for the rest of my life.  I believe that I can sustain this state indefinitely.  Originally I thought my US score wasn’t so great and I worried about keeping myself above 50, and I hovered there for the first week.  But when I look back and review how far I’ve come, the challenges I have faced in the past three months and how I have managed myself through them, I realize that these tools and this system is sustainable, and necessary to my well being.  I find it challenging to keep myself in strong emotional form when I am out of my routine. As someone who has been in a different time zone each of the past three weekends, I find I am out of my routine quite often. A strategy that works for me in using a variety of neuropositive tools is taking external events and using them to prompt the use of a tool.  Since I spend a lot of time driving, one “game” I play is attaching an emotion to pulse by car type that drives by.  So an SUV means pulse “hope” and a truck means pulse “gratitude” and a sedan means to pulse “peace” and so on.  I can get myself excited anticipating the next car and jumping to pulse the emotion it signifies. This game intensifies the emotion.  Another example of using an external event—yesterday I was at the beach watching the waves roll in; it was somewhat stormy and the waves were wild and breaking frequently. I used that to experience “just this” – to empty my mind and have the experience of the waves, the wind, the salt spray and just “be” there instead of letting my mind wander through and around all of the thoughts it likes to explore.  It was challenging because staying with “just this” required focus and discipline instead of allowing my mind to mirror the agitation and stimulation of the waves.  Alternatively, I use through my strengths of Curiosity and Interest In the World, Input and Love of Learning to follow up on links on research and websites about positive psychology. I love knowing more about the field and learning how much research is being conducted. I feel peace and joy and certitude thinking about all of the inquiring minds at work discovering new aspects of neuroplasticity that will enrich the lives of all in the world (which my strength of connectedness appreciates!).

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bcvalentine wrote on Sun Apr 15th, 9:32am:

Every Sunday I teach a class called IntenSati, which means mindful intentions.  We take a few moments at the start of each class and say “With gratitude I take responsibility for my life because my life is in my hands. What a blessing.  With gratitude I take responsibility for my thoughts because I am the thinker I am not my thoughts. With gratitude I take responsibility for my emotions and I choose to feel good. With gratitude I take responsibility for my actions and today I put one foot forward and take that step towards the life that I long to live.”
I have been certified to teach this fitness class for a few years but have finally found a place that really embraces the practice and have been given me an opportunity to really cultivate it. I began teaching it regularly right around the same time I started with ANI.  When ANI began I was in a good place both mentally and emotionally, US was around a 90 and my ES was in the low 80’s.  I felt good, I felt on top of things.  When it came to class I didn’t feel quite as strong.  I knew what I was doing. I knew I was a good instructor but I was going through the motions.  I wasn’t the mindful person I was trying to teach and motivate my participants to be. 
Through this process, becoming more mindful of my thoughts, more conscious of how I feel has changed everything.  I used to think “Yea, I’m on top of things” now I say to myself “I GOT THIS. I AM ON TOP OF THIS!” I used to feel good, what’s wrong with just feeling good? Now at any given moment I can honest say I feel great, awesome, wonderful, etc.  That for me was the shift from 90 to 95 on my US and 80 to 90 on my ES. 
That shift has seeped into my instructing because it is who I am and that level, that plain that I vibrate on now is catching on.  I am no longer nervous the way I was before class.  Time flies in class.  And more importantly my students have changed. There is a light in them and around them that is so beautiful to see.  I know with every part of my being that it is because of the tools I have learned and incorporated into my life and practice every day that those things carry over into everything I do and every life I touch.

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khalberg wrote on Sun Apr 15th, 9:45am:

My average UpSpiral score throughout this class is about a 91.  I began in about the 80 range, (although prior to starting I believe I was probably closer to the 70 range during the week!  Just the act of enrolling in a class despite my financial situation raised my scores, since love of learning, intellection, input ideation, and maximization are all strengths that flourish through learning new concepts, especially when they were aligned with my passion for neuroscience, positive psychology, & principles of quantum physics. Lately, I’ve had many 100 days, which brought the average up higher.) 

I think that the daily practice and focus on the emotional gym has kept my zeno focus on positivity, and led to the broadening and building of my resources so that yesterday, when the tip of my finger was bitten off accidentally when I reached in to (successfully) break up a dog fight, I was able to reach out to my support system, pulse peace and love as my boyfriend kept encouraging and talking to me as he drove me the 25 minutes to the hospital, remain positive throughout my four hours at the ER,  and express gratitude and appreciation to the people that helped me. 

This morning, I am still in an UpSpiral!  I believe that the universe will support me through this unexpected challenge, and I know that my family and loved ones will continue to support me any way they can.  Even though I am sure that the recovery process will send me some challenges, I know that I have the tools to keep me in an UpSpiral. 

I feel calm and peaceful, curious about what is next, and infinitely grateful that it was just a finger tip, that I was supported by my family and the staff in the ER yesterday, and for yet another beautiful spring day here on the Peninsula.

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Chelle wrote on Sun Apr 15th, 4:54pm:

Learning the methodology of neuropositivity has served to strengthen and increase my exisiting knowledge of the power of positivity and to deepen my beliefs regarding in what I now know to be an UpSpiral. This knowledge has lead to a consistent UpSpiral average score of 95. Practicing in the Emotional Gym, incorporating the Hands Prayer, utilizing Zeno Focus and Plans to the Universe, has been especially useful in attributing to keeping my UpSpiral high. 

What has been surprising however, is how while these tools have allowed me to keep a consistently high UpSpiral score, these same tools have lead to a somewhat more volatile emotional score.  The most valuable revelation of this work to me, has been the realization of just how much I live in and use ‘thinking’ to avoid truly engaging with emotion.  When I began the UpSpiral work, I truly believed my emotional score to be about the same as my UpSpiral score. However, in learning to really understand the difference between thoughts and emotions, to ‘Velcro’ to someone so that they truly know I’ve heard them,  to ‘think what I think’ and to ‘feel what I feel’ has been truly enlightening and humbling!.  It’s been a bit scary to creep out behind the use of my strength of intellection, to stop using it as a shield for ‘thinking’ emotion instead of feeling emotions!  Whew, talk about an emotional roller coaster!  I’m by nature a pretty evenly keeled emotionally, but wonder of the ‘even keeled’ has been more of ‘muted’.  I am now expressing emotions with much more awareness and openness, my family and friends are noticing and saying I seem ‘more alive and vibrant’ and not so ‘brainy’  I hope that’s a good thing!!!!

I’m now using my strategic strength to ‘get right down to it’, and my strength of curiosity and interest to delve into learning about how to truly believe and to use this belief to soar in my Vibecore into FuturePac.  I can genuinely feel my confidence in ‘knowing that I know that I know” and letting go of the ‘how’ into just flowing with Zeno focus.  It’s all coming together more and more quickly and this feels like the sweetest most delectable and exquisite desert I’ve ever had!

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Katherine wrote on Sun Apr 15th, 5:45pm:

When I reflect on my UpSpiral, Emotional Scale and VibeCore scores over these last many weeks I uncovered several insights.  Over time I have had a fairly steady score with an average of 97 for my UpSpiral. It is interesting to reflect back on how the scores changed over periods of time as if they are building blocks to a higher level of happiness.  I went from blocks of 90 and you can see how I tentatively started raising my score 95, 96, and 99 as I became more confident in my ability to understand and apply the material we have learned over these many weeks.

For me, I think an average score of 97 represents a high level of happiness that sustains itself through most of my days.  In the beginning of the UpSpiral calendar exercise I was concerned about noting a score too high thinking that it would mean this is as good as it gets.  I wanted to make sure I left room for growth.  I even remember asking about this in class one evening.  It took me about 8 weeks to have the courage to write 100 each morning.  Once I realized that my happiness set-point can increase and 100 today may be a different thinking and feeling state tomorrow I took the plunge into the UpSpiral vortex of happiness.  It is like a growing garland of positive states that seep out of my core bringing me to a higher UpSpiral. More importantly was the thought that I create my UpSpiral score each day.  This thinking is what led me to consider, why would I write down a lower score each morning as I start my day”? If my UpSpiral is not based on external events then the only alternative is that I control my score. 

I feel empowered by my ability to create an UpSpiral life each and every day.  I wake up feeling eager to sculpture the day by etching my vision in my Plans for the Universe journal.  I have a sense of gratitude that extends beyond the stars as if there is no longer room inside me to contain it.  With certitude I go into the day secure in knowing the universe will send me a sign that is a surprise. There is a radiant feeling that shrouds my being as if I am matching the Sun’s rays, ray for ray.  All of this makes me feel a sense of serenity, a peace that my life will be everything I can image.  As I come off the highest mountain of my UpSpiral I feel refreshed and ready for the next round of happiness. 

On a final note, I do want to share that I do not always stay in the UpSpiral state that I start each day in.  I have noticed slight variations as I move through the day and many times my score is dependent on events or thoughts I may have.  The primary difference from when I started to today is that I am aware of these changes in my state of mind.  There is an immediate invisible net that catches the negative event or thought and seizes it from my mind like a quick snare-net that has captured its prey.  I look forward to continuing the process of living my optimal life.

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jlongo wrote on Sun Apr 15th, 6:58pm:

I’ve spent a good portion of class with my UpSpiral scores in the mid to upper 80’s. The past few weeks I’ve been flying high in the 90-96 range which would average me somewhere around 90. When I take the time to think of my life leading to this point, that number is astounding! 90! I remember thinking at the start of class how far a score in the 90’s seemed, (Even thought numerically there wasn’t much of a distance) and now I’m living daily in that area that was once so far away!

Certitude has become my new found friend. I walk with my shoulders a little higher these days and speak with conviction. I’ve quit second guessing myself. I believe in myself. Every day I say my hands prayer, and with each repetition my Zeno Focus becomes more pinpointed giving me an inner feeling of determination. This is accompanied with relief! It’s so much more comfortable being me rather than the person I’ve always thought others wanted me to be. It makes me happy to be at a point in my life where I can say that I’m proud of my journey. In 2008 I was in an awful car accident resulting in a compound fracture to my dominant arm. At that point in my life my hands were my livelihood. I worked full time as an Esthetician, and taught piano lessons. This was a terribly hard time in my life. Everything I knew and loved came to a screeching halt. I ended up needing three corrective surgeries’s to my arm and was told by my pessimistic orthopedic surgeon that I may never have movement in my arm again. Now, three and a half years later I have 99% of the movement back in my arm with the strength building each day and I’m living on average at a 90 in my US. Astounding!!! I have a significantly beautiful scar on my arm, well actually I have several, but one stands out to me the most. I stared at that scar today and was charged with Gratitude. Most would think I would be grateful for my mobility, but the very first thing I was appreciative for was the Emotional Gym. Now when I look at this scar and all the others that surround it, I have a way to pull myself away from that pit at the bottom of my stomach. These marks are a constant reminder of that day and the struggles that followed, so naturally my gut reaction to them was never positive. Yet today when I stared at it, I smiled. I pulsed and I smiled. The Emotional Gym cultivated the move from a score that was stuck in the 80’s to a score that I once deemed unattainable.

As my scores continue to change, my understandings of them change as well. I used to think that the US gave me power, but now I think that the US is my power. Power to be in control and take charge. It’s the reason that I find my inner voice saying “This is all me” when I have a glimpse of insecurity, and me is someone I now love.

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jlongo wrote on Sun Apr 15th, 7:15pm:

Khalberg - Situations such as yours are a true test to see just how quickly we bounce back. Just as Dr. Larkin says, remaining in an UpSpiral gives us the ability to master a state of positive emotion. We just have to choose to live there. That alone is a large challenge! I’m happy to read from your post that this is indeed what you chose. It’s a great feeling when we can put this knowledge into action and I enjoyed hearing your success implementing these tools.  I wish you a speedy recovery, and will send positive thoughts your way. Good luck!

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Martin wrote on Sun Apr 15th, 7:35pm:

We have been working with the UpSpiral, Emotional Scale, and VibeCore scores for some weeks now. We’ve taught you to distinguish between what you think and what you feel, and to begin to be able to clearly express those differences. In your blog post this week, take the numerical average of your UpSpiral score since you began this class, include that average as part of your comments, and write a DETAILED post setting forth CLEARLY what you think and what you feel regarding your score. Also as part of your post, summarize how your scores have changed, how what you think and feel about them has changed, and what tools you’ve been especially engaging to grow your score.

When I first began the class my UpSpiral score was 85 and it has gone as high as 94 during the 12 weeks of this class.  The score has climbed steadily with only a few minor dips in the score.  My average score over the past twelve weeks is 89.  This seems to me to be an exceptionally high score.  When I first started using the EmotionalGym I did not think that a score this high was possible for me.  The dips in the score are due to temporary life events and I been able to bounce back rather quickly. Working out in the EmotionalGym has become a daily habit that I look forward to each morning. During the day I think about each of the emotions, peace, joy, love, hope and gratitude. But of all the emotions I think about gratitude the most; I am grateful for so many things, small things and big things.  We have had exceptionally good weather this year; this has allowed me to get outside to walk every day.  I am also grateful not to have to go to an office and work.  I can work at home and my biggest decision is to decide what fun thing I will work on today. I am grateful that my basic needs are met and I able to indulge in my wants and desires. 
My feelings about my UpSpiral score center around being satisfied and hopeful. I am satisfied about where I am right now in my life and I am hopeful for what the future holds.  Many new opportunities are opening up for me every day, I have the privilege of picking and choosing which to pursue.  I am confident that these opportunities will bring me even greater happiness.

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neuromind wrote on Sun Apr 15th, 8:44pm:

My Average US score is: 82

How My Scores Have Changed
I Think my scores reflect my learning journey at ANI. My US scores started in the mid-70’s, and − despite a medical situation − have steadily been on the rise. I noticed that my US score was easier to keep steady and grow upward. In contrast my ES scores have fluctuated more − especially in the beginning of this training − before adding tools that would assist me in directing these wiley feelings. As I remain in an UpSpiral I Feel good, encouraged, and proud. It’s like I’m discovering that I am a determined warrior, in my hand I hold my sword of neuropositivity; it helps cut through the smoke that I once believed came from a scary dragon, and now I see it was only illusion. When I put my laser focus on what’s important to me… the fog clears… and I WIN.

Now, the top priority in my life is to find ways to stay positive and stay in the UpSpiral. That’s my Zeno Focus… I run everything through that lens and it’s making a difference.  I’m learning how to use positive feelings as a way to navigate my life. Tracking my daily scores has increased my awareness of where I’m at. I see that my feelings have been directly tied to mostly external situations; I’d feel elated when some positive external event would happen, and when negative winds would blow, my feelings would be blown around just like the leaves in the trees. Now, 12 weeks in, I’ve learned to direct my mind.
I am DETERMINDED to stay in an UpSpiral.

One thing that’s helped me stay in UpSpiral is Just This. It has helped me to focus on one thing at a time, step-by-step. e.g. when I am in an important meeting I focus on just that activity (and not tripping over possible future happenings). This helps me keep a clear mind and a calm body, and remain in UpSpiral. 

How can I feel better? In tracking my scores I noticed there was a gap between my US and ES and so I focused my attention on closing that gap. I didn’t “work hard” on it; I practiced being easy with it, and just thinking that I wanted them to match. On a regular basis I would think about what I could do to feel better, and my actions would follow. By week 8 I closed the gap, and on most days, they now match.

Being Clear on What I Want
Time to break out my ANI tool box! (Great timing by the way) This week an opportunity showed up and I need to make a decision on what direction I go. Is it in alignment with where I’m directing my life? Or is it a tempting bit-of-bling that glitters and distracts from my path? Does it allow me to come from my strengths or would it be like swimming upstream?

I wasn’t sure what to do. Initially I was enthusiastic about a new project, enjoyed the idea of creating something new, and was thankful to be considered for the opportunity (strengths of Positivity, Creativity, and Gratitude). However, I also felt conflicted. So I consulted with my wall-of-wants… where I put all my post it notes. I read each note, reminding myself of what I want to create in my life. Most of what I saw was not a match; in fact it goes directly against some of my goals. So unless I get a sign from the universe showing me how it is on my path, and in alignment with my neuropositive goals, I think my decision is clear. It may be a great opportunity for somebody, and it’s probably not the right fit for me.

I believe saying “no” to this opportunity − which offers “security” on a one year project − would be a radical thing for me to do. So what would I be saying “yes” to? It means I’d be strengthening my positive neural pathways… the ones I want to strengthen. The ones that support my evolving belief that even if I can’t see it, what is most meant for me will come. To reinforce the message of flow, that is, I don’t need to work hard to make things work… I can be in flow. I can pick projects that are more closely aligned with my goals and strengths, and it is THERE that I will thrive.

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Medman wrote on Mon Apr 16th, 5:21am:

Before coming to ANI I just rolled with the punches. I never knew I had a choice as to how I felt. Choosing to live in the upspiral changes everything. Do I chose to be happy or sad? Do I like smiling or frowning? Life changed the moment I became aware of my choices. A simple little thing that brings big results. Living a new life not based on outside events and people but based upon my choice. My scores tell me alot about me. The way I am interacting with myself. If I am having a hard time relating to me how can anyone else break threw the wall that I have built. Looking for the happiness inside and knowing that I am responsible for turning it on and making sure that the light shines. It’s me and that is my job. Life changes the moment we have the power to lift ourselves up and not be depending on others to cheer us up. We control the thermostat that regulates the hvac system. Keeping the temperture hot when we need to perform and adjusting to a cool setting when we can chill. That is power. That is freedom. I have discovered one of the greatest secret of all times, I have discovered me. Learning how to feel good and set the tone of my day.

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jillangeldavis wrote on Sat Apr 21st, 12:30pm:

    My UP average is 77.  Initially I was disappointed, but I know that it reflects a person who is willing to take on new challenges in order to flourish even in the midst of an already heavy allostatic load. I also know that it reflects authenticity and I am proud of that. I am happy with the gain of small steps. I am moving in a heliotropic direction and deeply appreciate my sense of orientation and where I am in the UpSpiral. Being in the UpSpiral in and of itself helps me know that I am headed in a health giving direction. I know that if I can do what I have done in the low end of the Upspiral, that when I am consistently in the higher range of the UpSpiral I will be in flow like a force of nature. I know how to grow my score higher. This tickles me. One way is to be more consistent with my new morning practice of noting how I intend to use my strenghts for the day. This practice really quiets and focuses my mind. My scores were intially low and as my awareness of what I had control over grew, my UpSpiral score grew.
    One of my strengths is gratitude, and each day that the Universe brings me a sign that I recognize as a surprise, I am in awe. My time with ANI has been an intense period of mindfulness and learning to use new tools. Another way I will grow my strengths is to be more consistent with my daily practice of the zeno principal, the hands prayer, and looking through the lenses of my strengths. I have paid attention through the ANI lenses, to my own thoughts, and my interactions with others.
    Learning to use the ratios of 3 to 1 or 5 to 1 has caused me to scan and note the pearls of the day. Directing my zeno focus to scan for the 100 positive hits in a day also helps me stay in my UpSpiral.
    My median score is an 84 and that reflects how I feel now. I am getting better with reading where my vibecore is directing me and moving in the direction of self flourishing, radiant people and flourishing systems. As I continue to write my wants on the sticky notes and think about my future, I have a more complete sense of my self, there was a time that I could only imagine my life three years out, but by constantly writing down my desires, I have shifted from being a ship drifting at sea merely making the best of everything, to that of being able to hoist a sail and chart my course. I feel like everything that I have ever done has brought me to this moment of transition. Preparing to complete the future pac project is like stacking the ladder for the high jump and taking the leap with the certitude that this experience with ANI is a benchmark on my path. My Up Spiral score is a 95 when I think of this.

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dr.tommac wrote on Wed May 2nd, 2:58pm:

UpSpiral: Average: 82
Because I have learned and used the ANI knowledge and tool my score has gone up steadily to a higher height than I would have ever thought. I think I use my Strengths of Curiosity and Learner, and Bravery to move through my fears and doubt and Strategic to set-up an effective approach. I have set myself-up to learn and practice the experience of staying in the moment in a more real way.
How they have changed? My score have steadily gone up, in spurts and platues, hills and valleys. At times causing me to feel like a small ship in a moderate-heavy storm. Started in the high 60s, then as I used the Emotional Gym my scores moved quickly up into the 70s; due to feedback about my book it slide lower, I used the tools and leveled it off. As I let go and moved on with the book my levels moved up. My new relationship moved forward (and then stuck/back/forward several times), and I used the tools, my score moved up into the 80s and 90s.
Outside influences (book feedback, relationship, and general issues from Life Shift) have caused my score to go up and down somewhat (within 10 -15 points). I have successfully used the tools and bounced back to the same or a higher range. I moved up into the eights and then the nineties. 
How what I think about my scores has changed? Think that I have made very good progress, even more than I would have thought that I could have. Knowing that I can use these valuable tools to create higher emotional experience relatively easily, gives my a sense of control that I have not have.
How what I feel about my scores has changed? I feel amazed and happy that my scores when up as high as they have. It is lovely to know that I can tap the positive emotions of Gratitude, Love, Peace, Joy, and Hope any time with desirable results. The sense of control makes me feel more powerful.
What tools have been especially engaging to grow your score? The Emotional Gym: Gratitude, Love, Peace, Joy, and Hope, but especially Love. Heart focused experience has become a big theme for me, especially in my relationship and relationships in general. I have use my strengths, especially Curiosity (with Hero Raymond Moody), Learner (with Hero Martin Seligman), Bravery (with Hero Shirley Mac Laine), and I have a lot of natural Gratitude (fro my mother).
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The TWO most fundamental shifts in your thinking and experience which are the direct result of living in a sustained UpSpiral. Give us a detailed description of both, with examples which illustrate your story.

1. That I can and have raised my level of positive emotion dramatically higher than the statistical average of 12%, and I can maintain that high level indefinitely.

As I become aware of sliding done or being stuck/not in flow. I now know that I have the tools, especially pulsing one or more desirable positive emotions, usually all five of the Emotional Gym.

It’s now okay to go through a down period situationally/briefly, from time to time, especially if I’m going through a major growth period, (as I have been during most of this class). It’s okay because I know that I can experience whatever I’m feeling, process as I need to, and then raise my UpSpiral level when I chose to. This ability gives me a sense of control that is really nice. I use tools, especially pulsing Love to more through fears in my new relationship and to help myself open-up grow through issues in general. I’m do that this very day.


2. Reducing or even neutralizing my response to the poor and dangerous drivers. This has been a long-term problem. Playing the Music For the UpSpiral CD in the car has been very helpful. I just leave the CD on all of the time so I’m constantly reminded to practice the Emotional Gym, especially pulsing Love and Peace. When I see such a driver coming close, I often just choose to move out of the way so I will have as little contact as possible and can remain as peaceful as possible. I hope they get to their destination safely.

This response has generalized and raised my level of empathy towards difficult people in general, and especially clients where I work.

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